Reflections on Masculinity


Let me begin by thanking Centre for Cultural Studies, CIEFL for the ready cooperation that they have extended in making this seminar possible. This seminar has taken quite a long time to materialize and I am glad that it is finally happening. As a women’s studies research centre, Anveshi’s interest in the theme of this seminar emerges from its perspective on gender – a perspective which stresses that neither women nor women’s issues are out there to be documented – that it is imperative to see the ways in which ‘women’s issues’ are being constituted through diverse but interconnected fields of law, education, development, media and health in India. Since gender is deeply historical and contextual, women cannot many times be the objects of investigation but need to be located in relationships, institutions and structures that give them an objective reality.  Anveshi’s engagement with issues of sexuality has therefore been largely indirect – approached through the lens of health, domestic violence, development etc. Explorations and investigations that focus on the normative charge of masculinities are important ways of developing women’s studies that do not focus solely on women.

What I have in the name of introductory comments are quite skeletal and tentative. Building on some moments in shared histories; events in institutional life and conversations that occurred in the context of this seminar, I have strung together my thoughts which I thought would have a bearing on the theme of the seminar. And I hope that you will find them useful.

Years ago, during an anti-rape agitation in Hyderabad University Campus, a strange conversation among a group of students and faculty members took an explosive turn, giving me a glimpse into the extremely violent face of public masculinity. It was an agitation against the rape of a woman student by men from outside the campus. It was an occasion for women students, obviously led by upper caste women, to speak openly about the kinds of harassment that they face in and outside the campus. For sympathetic faculty members, it was an occasion to show solidarity. For upper caste men, it was the time to demand increased security for women i.e., surveillance on their movement. It was also an occasion for a dalit student association, to express solidarity with the agitating women students, where they included the demand that the victim be paid compensation. Unaware of the history of the SC/ST atrocities act where such compensation by the State is the rule, the women protestors reacted sharply. A sympathetic faculty member, trying to calm down the heated tempers on both sides, but obviously in a self-critical mood, said that men should learn to listen to women, at least in such critical moments. The colloquial use of an abusive term by him in deprecating men including men himself – “we men are all bastards, we should learnt to listen to women” proverbially opened up the Pandora’s box taking an unprecedented violent turn. For the first time, all the men in the campus mobilized as men saying that the said faculty member insulted them as men and demanded a public apology from him. They attacked his house, went around in procession against him through out the huge campus and stopped just outside the women’s hostel complex where the women students hid him. In an extremely tense and violent situation, with only two rings of faculty members protecting him from the mass of male students, the faculty member apologized publicly and withdrew hastily into the women’s hostel. What I want to point to is that this aggressive mobilization of male students was not directed against women per se; but against a faculty member, perceived to be pro-feminist and perceived to belong to an elite section. The men who mobilized had serious political differences and would be on opposite sides in the course of a normal day; they would align themselves along caste, regional, class lines. For many of us currently in the room, the moment of their coming together was an eye-opener – into the intertwining of caste and class in the sexual politics of the campus – prompting us to begin to think of gender, and masculinity in ways other than the familiar and comfortable male-female binary.

When one learns to disassociate gender from binary notions of masculinitiy and femininity, even seemingly consolidated formulations such as ‘domestic violence’ begin to develop cracks. I am not referring to the involvement of female in laws in incitement and engaging in such violence, but to the difficult to establish linkage between men and male interests in such violence. In many instances of such violence that come into the public realm, it is not uncommon to see fathers, sons and brothers accompanying and lobbying for women in various public spaces. It is not also uncommon to see male mediators, apart from lawyers and policemen defending women’s interests (leaving aside the question of effectiveness). In fact, it is also common to see that women defending victim-women’s interests begin to adopt and occupy conventionally given masculine traits and spaces: assuming the authority to intervene in the inner sphere of the family; making their presence felt in spaces such as police stations; instructing husbands and wives to perform their duties well; instructing in-laws to change with the changing times etc. These are the women who have understood the logic of such a governmental space, opened up through the public recognition of the rights of wives against domestic cruelty, and it is the authority obtained through occupation of such a space that allows them to (suspend) render some familial-conventional norms of femininity/masculinity redundant.
Problems arise when governmental category of domestic violence with its rigid conceptual grid of rights and duties of husbands and wives becomes the dominant analytical framework for understanding such violence. Domestic violence discourse in India is replete with such essentialist notions of masculinity and male violence, where violence is mapped onto the male bodies. In such a depoliticized, moralistic discourse, there is very little space for articulating this violence as structural, leave alone opening out the question of conjugal sexuality to explore how men and women inhabit this norm. After all, there is nothing new in the insight that it is not politically useful to trace all male violence to individual men. Rural women in the anti-arrack movement in Andhra Pradesh in early 1990s have articulated it by organizing against the arrack contractors, excise department and the police when abusive behaviour of alcoholic husbands became too much to bear. Investigations of domestic violence at Anveshi, by dis-articulating the question of domestic violence from masculinity and men, are pushing us to ask questions such as:  how far does the rights discourse in domestic violence help us in understanding women’s desire to retain ‘the affective ties of the family/husband’? How is conjugality tied into these affective ties – of care, belonging and attachment? In what ways do the bourgeois notions of conjugality, that underwrites the rights discourse, delegitimize an entire range of non-monogamous lives and practices?

The last event that I want to refer to is about the presence of male bodies in a feminist conference. The conference was titled, Listening Together: Talking Differences, the first South Indian Young Feminist Conference, was ambitiously aimed at bringing together women who have entered feminism in the post Mandal, Masjid phase. As feminism was defined in terms of politics, the question of men definitely came up – can’t men who think of feminists attend the conference? By a majority vote it was decided that they could not. The clinching argument was - when sensitive experiential accounts are being shared it was felt that men’s presence would impede a free sharing among women. But, the issue continued to stay alive - in the form of two male videographers who were taping the conference – creating annoyance and irritation to some. However, what emerged as the major fault-line of the conference, was not the gaze of the male videographers but that of the upper caste, middle class women – with rest of the groups, especially dalit women, perceiving themselves as speaking on a platform which did not belong to them. The Dalit women group’s presentation on sexuality emphasized caste as the most important determinant of the identity of dalit women – marking them as chattels, joginis, sexually loose and immoral. Unlike the upper caste women’s anxieties that centred on choice in marrying or not marrying, or compatibility and incompatibility in marriage and/or domestic violence, the group presentation of dalit women stressed on battles of an entirely different order – where injury and violence was primarily experienced in and through caste. Politically, ‘masculinity’ was not a problem that they found it important to articulate at that moment. The issue that the dalit women’s group presentation forced us to think about was – that of the different social histories of dalit women and upper caste women- that mark their perspectives, battles and visions in very different ways. How does one begin to discuss sexuality and/or masculinity in ways that are attentive to these differences?
------------
Introductory comments to the Travelling Seminar on Masculinity hosted by Anveshi in 2007 at the then CIEFL

Comments